One of the scariest places a person can ever find themselves is alone and detached from the world they know. It is a state of walking into the unknown, not sure which direction is necessarily the right path. It is also the place where we normally have no choice, but to be self sufficient and rely heavily on the grace of God or whomever your higher being maybe.
At some point, we all face this period of being alone. It is a time that requires us to sit still and be in alignment to where our life’s path is taking us.
Many times we try to avoid this time with ourselves like the plague. It can be awkward and honestly very uncomfortable. For silence to be so quiet, it can surely be so loud at the same time.
Have you ever truly sat in a room by yourself with no distractions. No tv, no phone, no internet, no social media, literally nothing. It’s just you, your thoughts and God. Imagine how that may go if you took the time to just zone out and purposefully isolate yourself from the rest of the world.
Could you handle the noise of your own thoughts?
Better yet, would you feel comfortable and open to hear what God had to say to you?
Often times, clinicians will diagnose a person who goes into isolation from their everyday routine as a clear indicator for depression or anxiety. And their right. As a counselor, this would definitely serve as a red flag should a client report or display such behaviors. However, whoever said isolating yourself for healthy pretenses was every a bad thing?
Although isolation can be seen as unhealthy, sometimes we all need time to truly reflect, discern and reconnect with where we are in our lives.
It is so easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle with everything that the idea of checking in with ourselves is nonexistent.
Not to mention although we love our friends and family, sometimes constantly taking their opinions into account can often drown out our own voice and perspective. Although they may mean well, they can only base their advice from their experiences of truth. And truth be told, what may work perfectly well for their life could actually serve no good purpose for yours.
When we truly allow ourselves to isolate from the rest of the world in a positive manner, two things usually happens. We begin to see and hear things very clearly.
Our worries or concerns start to dissipate and we begin to find solutions to these problems. Our joy and strength are restored which makes it easier to tackle the next big project ahead. And lastly, our paths and focus recalibrate to move with ease and precision making the best decisions that works for our personal lives.
During this process, it forces us to be 100% honest and vulnerable with ourselves. We begin to breakdown the walls and barriers we internalized where it becomes nearly impossible to hide from our own truths.
Ironically, the more we try to hide from our truth, the more God places us in circumstances where isolation is our last and only resort. It is as though, He gets us to a place where we have no choice, but to actually sit still, remove ourselves from our norms and force us to truly get into proper alignment with our destiny.
He will remove people from our lives, allow chaos to transcend, have our own thoughts drive us up the wall or just about anything else just to get our attention. You can either fight the process or surrender to it. Just keep in mind the longer you resist, the longer the delay towards your breakthrough.
Growing up as an only child I hated the idea of being alone. It was lonely and boring at times. I craved the surroundings of others on a daily basis just to give me a sense of being connected. Even now, I love the company of others pouring in love, affection, humor and mental connectedness that keeps me going and sustained.
Yet, I am now able to recognize and appreciate the importance of having much needed alone time with myself. It is where I get to rejuvenate, reflect and place proper perspective to what I’m doing right now in the present. And you know what, it’s not as scary as I thought it would be!
Maybe you have been feeling like you need to isolate yourself from others for a while. It’s not saying you have to drop from the face of the earth, but when will you schedule personal time for yourself to detach from everything and everyone?
Perhaps waking up early for at least 10-20 minutes before starting your day or helping your family. What about turning off your cell phone for at least one hour out the week. Think about taking a vacation by yourself to somewhere you’ve never been before. Here’s a big one, taking a break from your 50 million social media accounts and placing that time into doing something productive that will add value to your life.
To go into proper, positive and healthy isolation you have to consciously make the choice to do so. This will ultimately make you better in the long run!
We always make time for the things we consider to be important. Make sure taking care of you is on the list as well. And sometimes that does mean going into isolation for a while.
As always remember to stay beautiful, blessed and divinely favored!