In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it. I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions whether they be to others or to myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me.
By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know, but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.
I AM ME and I AM OK.
I remember the first time I came across this poem. It was the year I mustard up the courage to compete in my very first and last pageant my senior year at Hampton.
As stated in previous blogs, Hampton definitely challenged my mental stability, yet most importantly made me see myself for who I truly was and still striving to be.
I feel as though the reason why I gravitated to this poem so much was because it allowed me to realize I didn't have to be perfect, but merely try my best in everything I did.
For the first time in my life, I felt as though just being me was good enough and that I had the power to change the parts about myself that I personally didn't like versus the dislikes that others felt regarding me.
So often we lose ourselves in this world questioning everything about ourselves.
We can't hear our own voice because we are too busy trying to live up to something we weren't designed to be in the first place.
Just the idea alone of being perfect is exhausting in itself, let alone attempting to live that lifestyle can be miserable altogether.
One of the first tell-tell signs that you aren't allowing yourself to be perfectly imperfect, is that your gut and soul are out of alignment with the rest of your life.
With many clients, I discuss the difference between the head, heart and gut! Typically, our head makes logic out of everything to help justify our thought processes. Our heart, usually tells us exactly what we want to hear or desires out of life regardless if it does or doesn't serves us a valuable purpose in our journey. But our gut is a different beast in itself.
Our gut is the moral compass that never lies to us. It tells us what we need to hear versus what we want to hear. It doesn’t try to make logic out of something because it only knows how to be truthful and straightforward with us at all times.
We often fall out of alignment with our gut feelings because it's hard facing the truth. At one point in time, we all want to live up to the various fantasies and dreams we have for ourselves - and truth be told there's nothing wrong with that.
However, there also comes a time when we must be honest with ourselves and meet ourselves where we are in the present and not where we plan to be in the future. This ultimately helps to push and propel us to get to our promising future.
We must stay in tune with our reality and let our faith be the anchor in our lives for greater things to come.
One of the best things about embracing ourselves in our entirety is that we begin to operate in a place of honesty. We recognize our strengths, weaknesses and declare I AM ME and I AM OK regardless!
When this takes place, our journey gets elevated to even higher heights. By knowing who we are and embracing our imperfections fortifies us to truly experience life at its maximum potential.
Not only will we survive the everyday hurdles life brings, but we will begin to thrive in our own unique glory!
So today embrace yourself and encourage someone close to you to accept being perfectly imperfect... I promise it will be the best decision you will have ever made in your life!
Until next time Ladies stay beautiful, blessed and divinely favored!