I always laugh whenever someone ask me this question. It is as though, because I am able to help others with their problems absolutely means there is no way possible I would have problems of my own. And ironically, in the beginning of my career I thought the exact same thing. I know what your thinking, silly rabbit tricks are for kids! But honestly, I did.
For the longest time I felt as though I had to be perfect. I had to be a constant living breathing example of how one should live their life at all times. Let’s be real, the only person I know that was ever perfect was Jesus Christ and despite his actual perfect example they still crucified Him!
But for me, it felt as though I was living a charade, a double life if you will. I placed so much pressure on myself to live up to this unrealistic persona that when I did fall short - which was often - I would be my own worst critic beating myself up more than any outsider could ever do.
Have you heard the age old question, how many counselors does a counselor need before they can counsel another person? Well for me that would be one. And I gladly see her once a month for my own personal self care. Her name is Kristy and she is AWESOME lol!
But I say all of this because this is the reason why I started Hey Mz. Lady and ultimately Reformed Stupid Girl. With Hey Mz. Lady you get the motivational and challenging self reflective pieces that pushes you to be the very best version of yourself.
I am all for women’s empowerment and truly believe we are the backbones of our families, communities and even the world. It’s the piece of me that I love sharing with my family, friends and especially my clients. It is also the reminder that you, your feelings and your dreams are valid it’s just up to you to actually see and believe it!
But with Reformed Stupid Girl, it is the part of me that only very few people get to see. It’s the reality of dealing with the obstacles that comes with life. It is the failures that I have overcame, the working progresses and really it’s my outlet with you beautiful readers that shows me just trying to get it right like the rest of you.
I am fully aware that the name alone Reformed Stupid Girl may catch people off guard initially. Let me be clear in saying, I am in no way calling myself or anyone reading this stupid. It’s actually quite the opposite. But it is to say, I am quite sure many of us can look back on some decisions or even behaviors of our past that resembles unflattering qualities that could be labeled as well stupid…
By definition, stupid is defined as lacking intelligence or common sense. And depending on the situation, I can be the first to say that this definition could be applied in numerous areas in my life within a moments time. However, it is detaching the word stupid from the person and ultimately placing it on the behavior hence, this is where Reformed comes into play. When we acknowledge the “stupid” moments we’ve experienced in life, we are then able to reform and also transform those circumstances into valuable lessons learned.
With Reformed Stupid Girl I wanted to share with you guys the side most counselor’s dread for our client’s to see, that we’re actually HUMAN! Yes, we have real emotions and find ourselves perplexed even when things don’t turn out they we think or “feel” they should be. Well, I’m here to change that. So let’s share our stupid moments together and truly become a reformed inspiration to one another in the process!
If you haven’t figured out by now, I’m truly an open book and love sharing my story with others if I feel it could be helpful in anyway. So be ready for a whole lot of conversation. I’m exposing myself in a whole new light. It is my hope and prayer you feel just a vulnerable to do so with yourself and maybe one day with others too.