Let me first start out in saying, how proud I am of you. You get up every morning and face the day ready to kick ass, which is one of the qualities I love most about you. You are able to do things with your own sense of flare and style that can only be described as uniquely yours.
You are so intelligent and kind, sweet and assertive, flexible and loyal to a fault sometimes, but most importantly one of the most loving and supportive individuals I know! Please never allow anyone or anything to ever change that about you.
However, because I do love and care for you so much, I feel inclined and also obligated to point out some not so great changes I've seen in you lately. It seems as though when life took a turn for the worst, instead of operating in faith you began to operate out of fear, anger and insecurity. You allowed your circumstances to second guess your pure intentions and self worth.
As a result, now you are having difficulties being vulnerable, trusting or intimate with others.
You continue to allow experiences from the past have instant replay access to your mind, reliving every negative interaction.
What's even worst, is that you have allowed this to take precedents over your dreams and destiny God himself has given you specifically.
I know that last situation hurt you really bad, but what happened to the you before this situation occurred. Are you not just as valuable now as you were before? You mean to tell me that just because this particular story didn't work in your favor that it cancels all the other great aspects your present and future still holds?
When did you allow yourself to become a victim to the obstacles that life is known to throw at us? How is it possible that a series of unfortunate happenstance is allowed to dictate how your future will turn out in the end?
Although I'm sure you haven't given up completely, your mindset and current behaviors says otherwise.
You continue to obsess over the past and have become so frustrated with yourself in the current, that you can't even begin to appreciate the peace of mind you've gained in your now present!
I need you to do me a favor. I need you to get back in touch with the strong and resilient you, that you were designed to be...
I want you to recognize that your past is only designed to make you better and not bitter...
I truly hope that you see that you are more than capable of not only healing from this situation but you can and will thrive from this situation as well!
Every circumstance you have experienced — whether good, bad or indifferent — is a valuable lesson that can be learned.
Sometimes you have to find peace in the fact that our only sense of closure will be letting go and letting God work everything out for our greater good.
There's no need in over analyzing, constantly asking friends or family for their opinion or even continuously praying for things to get better. In all actuality, these could be the very things that holds you back from truly healing past these circumstances in the first place!
So at the very least when everything else seems to hard to handle remember these 7 Lovely Logics to help you make it through almost every situation or circumstance you may face in the future:
1. Make peace with your past so it doesn’t spoil your present.
2. What others think about you is none of your business.
3. Time heals almost everything, give the time, some time.
4. Don’t compare your life with other’s, you have no idea what their journey is all about.
5. No one is a reason of your happiness except you yourself.
6. Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know all the answers.
Last but not least,
7. Smile, you don’t own all the problems of the world.
Remember love, it is our pasts that helps make us who we are. Let's make sure we are taking every circumstance we face to make us the best version of ourselves every chance we get! Besides, we are just too fabulous to be anything else otherwise!
Until next time ladies, stay beautiful, blessed and divinely favored!