Have you realized that majority of the decisions we make are based off some sort of feeling or emotion?
Now the therapist in me loves the idea of this type of awareness. However, the realist in me says this could get or keep us in a lot of trouble in more ways then just one.
Our emotions plays a big part in our everyday living. They tell us how we feel. They give us instincts and intuition. But most importantly, they open our eyes to various perspectives good, bad or indifferent.
The problem with having these emotions sometimes is that we don't always know how to manage them. This is when we get ourselves into trouble along the way.
I was listening to Kirk Franklin's new song Wanna Be Happy and I must admit I absolutely fell in love right from the beginning of the song.
In so many ways, the song suggests will a person ever be happy within their life's journey.
What intrigued me the most was that it didn't just stop there. It went deeper in its message by asking questions and challenging the person's behavior. In so many ways, it pretty much stated if you want to be happy are you willing to put yourself in the mindset and/or atmosphere of being happy in the first place!
You see we have a tendency of placing our happiness, joy and peace of mind in the hands of other people and things, that we honestly give away our power to provide these things for ourselves.
I found myself asking this question to myself and God a lot lately.
As I shared before, it has been a very interesting year to say the least. A lot of transitions, a lot of changes, new perspectives gained, faith tested in so many ways, yet and still with the good and bad I still found myself not fully or genuinely happy on a consistent basis.
And instead of doing the typical misery loves company act, by bogging my friends down with my woe is me speech, I found myself isolating from others instead. Sometimes this was a good thing because my relationship with God has truly deepened during this time.
I have learned and I am still learning to lean on His understanding for peace of mind and wisdom beyond any human measure.
However, I'm still a real person living in the real world.
And yes, the struggle is definitely real!
But thankfully, I have an awesome support system - both old and new - that in many ways help me to realize just how blessed I am often without them even knowing they’re doing so...
One in particular, brought me to a website to give me ideas regarding taking my business to the next level.
Surprisingly, after scrolling through some of my podcast I haven't had the chance to listen to yet, I came a cross one that said stop being the victim within your own life.
Now for some reason I just knew I needed to hear this message and everything this young lady had to offer in her podcast. Her name by the way is Courtney Sanders, definitely check her out!
Nevertheless, her podcast pretty much just reminded me that in life we all have choices.
Furthermore, by being adults the decisions we make should be one the we would have no problem living with regardless of the opinion of others.
And unfortunately, I've done this so much within my life, but especially this past year.
It just felt as though every time something caught me off guard or knocked me off my square, I found myself easily discouraged, postponing or procrastinating on various work ventures, emotionally beating myself up, distancing myself from others and honestly just living in my own bubble.
On the outside, I was of course my warm and bubbly self, but inside I was confused and found myself realizing I can only control myself and not the actions of others.
So in listening to Courtney’s podcast, Think and Grow Chick to be exact, I found myself beginning to take ownership of myself, my relationships, my business aspirations and the role I played in either their success or downfall.
I truly believe if it wasn't for the fact that I've been working on myself and my relationship with God so much in these last two years, I wouldn't be able to come to grips with the fact that I was the person standing in the way of my own happiness...
I chose to put up with things I know was not like me or even what I deserved. But interestingly enough, I allowed the actions or lack there of from others to dictate my behavior and attitude which is a sure recipe for disaster!
I'm sure you all can relate in some sort or another.
For the most part, I love being the motivational cheerleader for everyone I encounter within my journey, but sometimes it was more so attempting to minister to myself while minstering to everyone else…
I recognized that although it's important to pour into others, it's equally important to allow others to pour into me as well.
But even when my support system is unavailable to attend to my needs, with God’s help and my own will power I must give that back to myself first and foremost.
No, I'm far from a damsel in distress looking for someone to save or provide me with a sense of happiness...
I can and will have to rely on God and myself to provide that for me each and every day regardless of my current circumstances.
Yes hard times will come…
But just like I preach to you beautiful ladies each and everyday, obstacles are made to come, we are made to overcome them!