I'm at the point of my life where I want to start embracing my struggles.
Yep, you've heard me correctly!
I want to embrace my struggles and share my experiences with others…
Throughout my life I have found myself constantly trying to live up to this picture perfect ideal. Obtaining the perfect career, being the perfect daughter, the perfect student and of course finding the perfect husband, having the perfect kids to make the complete perfect little package.
But life always has this annoying habit of reminding you that there's no such thing as perfection.
And to be candidly honest with you, when finally deciding to launch Hey Mz. Lady, I thought with the right team, investing the right money, having the clinical expertise and being as picky as I am with everything concerning my business, I knew for sure that my baby would be absolutely perfect and everyone would love her just as much as I do!
I was so naive that I even thought my writing process would become easy to me again even though it's been a while since being a serious writer.
If anything, these last few months have been far from perfect...
My schedule is now stretched to its max. At times I feel detached from my website simply because I get overwhelmed and not to mention trying to balance my personal life with professional life can still be challenging for me.
Let's not even talk about the amount of money I've invested!!!
But these past few weeks God has placed it on my spirit to really begin to reflect on what's missing in my life. I finally took some time to just sit back & reflect on some things and eventually God revealed to me that I had no vision.
The bible says in Proverbs 29:18, “Where there is no vision the people will perish”. So I started looking at my life's vision board and began specifically looking at the career section I made.
I heard God asking me what is the vision you want for Hey Mz. Lady?
It was hard for me to think of what it was. And to be honest, it has been for a while. But, at least it made me mindful and aware that this had been the missing link all along.
You see the mission for Hey Mz. Lady has always been to motivate and inspire you beautiful readers in the best way I possibly could. I thought by saying a few encouraging words here and there & giving my counseling expertise would be the sure fix to help women in need of any aspect of their lives.
I got so caught up in living up to the mission that I didn't realize there was no vision to back it up.
But what I'm now beginning to realize is that by being myself and sharing my own story can prove to be just as helpful if not more so.
At this point, lets just be real with each other…
Yes, I am a counselor.
But, it is not the only facet of my life that defines me. Nor does having this title and a few other credentials behind my name, makes me exempt from life’s daily challenges.
I am still a young woman, navigating and learning this thing called life right along with you ladies. And while yes, I have been clinically trained to help others more than the average person, I realize that I too need help from time to time as well.
Me being a counselor doesn’t mean I know everything there is to know about living a successful life. In addition, it doesn’t make me the expert on your life! I am simply able to help others get through and understand their life from different perspectives.
And somewhere along the way, I lost sight of that.
I placed a lot of pressure on myself to be Ms. Perfect and to have all the answers, that when I realized I couldn’t live up to this unrealistic standard I began to withdraw and not enjoy the beginning stages of this new journey God has given me.
It became like another job, doing something because I felt obligated to do versus the joy of sharing my thoughts and helping others.
When Hey Mz .Lady was just an idea, I placed so much planning and analyzing over my website before it ever came to life. Many of my family and friends thought it would stay in the planning phases and never come to life. I hate to admit, but I did too.
Sometimes, I truly believe that God just needs for us to start moving in our lives so that He can reveal to us where He is calling us to be. Taking it a step further, when we start making those moves He can also give us more to work with down the line simply because we were being obedient, faithful and motivated by faith and vision to see our lives being lived to our fullest potential.
He can’t use you if you are not willing to make moves…
All God is requiring me to do is be myself, release control to Him and simply do what I can with all my heart. It sounds like an extremely corny Hallmark card, but isn't this the sole purpose of life in general?
What I love most about embracing this new journey in my life is that it allows me to be me. As long as I enjoy life, work hard, have faith and now create a clear vision for myself, my life has no choice, but to succeed.
And the same can happen for you…
What is the vision you have for your life?
And if not your life, what specific area do you know requires self reflection to create the best vision that is pleasing to you?
Going forward my new vision, specifically for Hey Mz. Lady, is to be more transparent with my own personal journey and share my clinical expertise with you wonderful ladies.
I want to become your sister, friend and trusted confidant that will always be truthful with you, but also encourage you to make the best decisions that works for your life!
It is my hope that this platform will only enhance, when I can earn your trust and build a genuine relationship with each of you that blesses this website with your presence.
This is my vision…
Now what is yours?
Until next time ladies, stay beautiful, blessed and divinely favored!