So if you haven't noticed by now, I have a real love for genuine people. In a world where everything is self-driven, protective of images/brands/platforms and more concerned about their public affiliations, it's always refreshing to make a genuine connection with someone. If there was anything I will specifically take away from this year is the good ole saying, “I’ll take quality over quantity anyway."
Within this year, I was able to make a lot of those genuine connections, especially in the realm of business. It's funny how just by living in your authentic truth you will attract people of the same caliber that not only want to invest into you professionally, but personally as well. I love it when that happens because it just goes to show there can be a healthy balance between the two. It doesn't mean you become best friends with everyone you meet, but in a pure moment you can begin to appreciate being in that present space with them. It's lost art form that really needs to be restored.
Unfortunately and fortunately, I also was able to recognize who didn't have my best interest at heart this year. In hindsight, I'm grateful God was able to show me just why certain relationships had to fall apart or get left behind simply for that fact of impure motives. In any healthy relationship trust must be the foundation. Once that is broken, it can make it extremely difficult to bring that back to life. And if you really think about why would you?
The late great Maya Angelou once said, "When people show you who they are, believe them!"
But I especially like how the Bible puts it in 1 John 4:1:
Dear friends, do not believe everyone who claims to speak by the Spirit. You must test them to see if the spirit they have comes from God. For there are many false prophets in the world.
Don’t get me wrong God can and will restore certain relationships if He believes it will be beneficial to your journey. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of timing and being in the right season for a relationship to flourish or come into full bloom. But in essence, we have to do a better job recognizing the Real from the Fake.
Discerning is everything, but let's not rule out just using regular common sense. Many times people show us who they really are from the get go. However, for whatever the reason maybe, we don't want to accept what they are telling or most of the time showing us. Never downplay the great gifts God gives us such as intuition, observation and critical thinking. When properly used, the three can be an unstoppable trio to give you confirmation on what kind of relationship you have with just about everyone.
When stepping into 2017, it is of the utmost importance that we recognize the Real from the Fake relationships in every relationship within our life. You have to be especially protective of the space and vision God is going to give us. And if our circle isn't right, unfortunately we will find ourselves learning some pretty hard lessons throughout this upcoming year. We deserve to have an authentic and genuine support system, but we also have to be willing to cut some tides and/or have strict boundaries with others along the way.